Of everything I’ve said on stage — across 60+ keynotes, two TEDx talks, and rooms from Google to the Government of Canada — there’s one line that gets quoted back to me more than any other.
“Don’t give your energy to something that will not make you better.”
The CalWORKs Association specifically called it out in their feedback. Audience members text it to me months later. People write it on Post-its and stick it on their monitors.
It’s not clever. It’s not a soundbite designed to go viral. It’s just true. And I think it resonates because most people — most leaders, most professionals, most humans — are giving enormous amounts of energy to things that are actively making them worse.
Here’s what I mean.
Energy Is Your Most Limited Resource
We talk a lot about time management. Productivity hacks. Calendar optimization. But the real currency isn’t time — it’s energy. You can have 16 hours in a day and accomplish nothing if your energy is spent on resentment, anxiety, comparison, or relationships that drain you.
I learned this the hard way. After I was shot and paralyzed at 24, I had plenty of time. I was in a hospital bed, then a wheelchair, then a rehabilitation center. Time was the one thing I had. But my energy was going to anger. Grief. Self-pity. Fear. And as long as my energy was invested in those things, nothing changed.
The day things shifted wasn’t the day I got more time. It was the day I redirected my energy — from what happened to me toward what I was going to do about it.
That’s the shift. And it applies to everyone, not just people who’ve experienced trauma.
Where Your Energy Is Leaking
In my speaking and consulting work, I see the same energy leaks over and over.
Toxic workplace dynamics that people tolerate because they think they have to. Meetings that exist because they’ve always existed, not because they produce anything. Grudges that take up mental bandwidth every single day. Goals that were set to impress other people, not to build something meaningful. Social media consumption that makes you feel worse about yourself, not better.
None of these things make you better. All of them cost energy. And most people never do the math.
When I built Disabled But Not Really, I had to make hard decisions about where my energy went. Every hour I spent on something that didn’t serve the mission — the nonprofit’s mission or my own — was an hour I couldn’t spend on programming, fundraising, or the people we were built to help. That discipline didn’t come naturally. It came from necessity.
And it’s the same discipline I bring to my consulting clients. Before we talk about strategy, growth, or brand positioning, we talk about energy. Where is it going? What is it producing? And what would happen if you redirected it?
The Practice
This isn’t about positive thinking. I’m not going to tell you to manifest your way to success or visualize your goals into existence. That’s noise.
This is about discipline. Daily, unglamorous discipline.
It starts with one question every morning: what am I giving energy to today, and will it make me better?
If the answer is no — if you’re heading into a meeting that wastes everyone’s time, nursing a grievance that’s three years old, scrolling through content that makes you anxious, or pursuing a goal that someone else set for you — then you have a choice. Keep spending, or redirect.
That choice is available to you right now. Not next quarter. Not after the offsite. Not once things calm down. Right now.
Why This Matters for Leaders
If you’re in a leadership position, this principle isn’t just personal — it’s organizational. Because your energy sets the tone for everyone who works with you.
When a leader gives energy to drama, the team follows. When a leader gives energy to blame, the team follows. When a leader gives energy to things that don’t produce outcomes, the team follows.
And when a leader gives energy exclusively to the things that make the organization better — clarity, accountability, honest feedback, real inclusion, strategic decision-making — the team follows that too.
I’ve been in rooms with CEOs who spend 80% of their mental energy on problems that don’t matter. And I’ve been in rooms with leaders who are ruthless about where their attention goes. The difference in organizational performance isn’t subtle. It’s massive.
The Line That Sticks
“Don’t give your energy to something that will not make you better.”
It’s not complicated. But it is hard. Because the things that waste our energy often feel urgent, important, or unavoidable. They rarely are.
The most transformative decision I ever made wasn’t starting a nonprofit, opening a wellness center, or stepping onto a TEDx stage. It was deciding — from a hospital bed, paralyzed from the waist down — that my energy belonged to my future, not my past.
Everything I’ve built since has been a consequence of that one decision.
Yours can be too.
— Wesley Hamilton