About Wesley

I spent a lot of my life becoming who I thought I had to be.

In the streets, I learned how to survive. After I was paralyzed, I tried to become the man I used to be. When success came, I became who everybody else expected me to be. Somewhere in all of that, I finally started becoming myself.

Before the chair

Most people know my story from the moment I was shot. It did not start there. I grew up in Kansas City where survival made sense to me long before possibility did. I dropped out of high school in my sophomore year and got my GED later. I hustled. I loved numbers. I had my first gun at 13.

I am not proud of everything I did, but I refuse to tell that chapter like the younger version of me was a bad kid who needed better choices. He needed to see more choices. When your environment shows you one version of manhood and survival for long enough, you start believing it is the only version available. I did.

The day everything changed

On January 14, 2012, a stranger shot me twice in Kansas City. He had taken no part in the argument I went there to have. I was 24. Weeks earlier I had been given full custody of my daughter, Nevaeh. I remember thinking, this is how it ends.

It didn't.

The physical injury was only part of it. I had built my identity around being strong, independent and able to handle whatever came at me. Suddenly I needed help. I spent the next year in a depression I had no language for, my body failing me too, a stage four pressure ulcer, 230 pounds at 5'4". I almost did not make it through year one.

Superman

My daughter saw something before I did. When she was little, she looked at my wheelchair and called it my Superman chair. At a time when I saw only what had been taken from me, she saw her dad. That did not fix anything. It gave me a different question to ask: what if this body was not the end of me?

So I stopped trying to go back and started building forward. I studied nutrition at community college and lost over 100 pounds in a year. I started lifting, then competing. Strength changed my body, but more than that it changed my thinking. I learned that progress has a process, and I did not have to rush it to trust it.

Success wasn't the ending

For a while I thought success was freedom. Money, recognition, the right car, being booked, being seen. Then I realized success can become another place to hide. I had built a life that looked successful and still found myself asking whether I was actually free. That question brought me back to purpose, and to the parts of my life that mattered when nobody was clapping.

I am not trying to get back to anything now. I train because I love being strong. I travel because I want to see the world. I build because creating gives me freedom. I am still a father, still from Kansas City, and still somebody who understands the kid who cannot see past his block, because I was him.

I don't need to call paralysis a gift to value what I learned building this life. I was a victim of gun violence. I refuse to make victimhood my identity.

  • 2× TEDx Speaker
  • CNN Hero Nominee
  • Netflix Queer Eye
  • DBNR Founder
  • NASM Certified
  • KC Mayor's Committee Chair
  • Forbes · Fortune · Ebony
  • 60+ Engagements
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The work

The decision, repeated.

  1. 16

    On his own, early

    Wesley moved out at 16, learning what most people don't until much later, that responsibility, when it's real, either breaks you or builds something in you.

  2. 24

    The turning point

    A stranger shot Wesley twice and left him paralyzed from the waist down. He had been granted full custody of his daughter Nevaeh only months earlier. In the year that followed he lost over 100 pounds. He describes that period not as a setback, but as the beginning of his actual work.

  3. 2015

    Disabled But Not Really

    Wesley founded DBNR, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit built around adaptive fitness and opportunity for individuals with spinal cord injuries. DBNR's work has since informed redesigns at Kansas City International Airport and MLK Park.

  4. 2020

    Hamilton Consulting Co.

    Wesley launched the firm, delivered his second TEDx talk, and began working with the Government of Canada, McDonald's, Penn State, Rutgers, and others. The practice grew out of a recognition that what he had learned could help organizations as much as individuals.

  5. Now

    Ongoing

    Today Wesley serves as Executive Director of DBNR, Lead Consultant at Hamilton Consulting Co., Chair of the KC Mayor's Committee for People with Disabilities, founder of Beyond Barriers Travel Co., and founder of INCLŪSIV Wellness, Kansas City's first fully adaptive wellness center. He has delivered 60+ keynotes across corporate, government, higher education, and nonprofit stages, and is now booking 2027 engagements.

Something happened to me.
It doesn't get to decide everything that happens through me.

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